In chess the goal is to win. Duh! But we want the same in
life. So the fad is to call compromise a win-win or war lose-lose. Secretly
though we want to succeed and feel good. So don’t really mind if others lose.
Stalemates go against that. In Chinese chess the player who
causes a stalemate wins, but in International chess it’s a draw. Maybe this
shows the western mindset more accepting of no winner situations.
Winning in real life is quite ethereal. First, we can change
the rules as we go. Then, each person has their own winning scenario to make it
easy to convince ourselves of success or failure. This kind of thinking may
help in work, sports or games but why make a win-lose distinction in our
closest relationships?
Real relationships are about mutual compromise and devotion.
It’s kind of pursuing a benevolent no win scenario. Maybe stalemate is the goal of good friendships.
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